Anne-France Huret, a psychologist who specialises in family and couple therapy, has some words of advice on making the transition from emotional dependence on the object of your affections (the intense “us” experienced at the start) to emotional independence; the “me / myself / I” which is more fulfilling in the long term. It’s a process with several stages, but working on your self-esteem is the most important of these….
In France, there’s a well-known proverb about playing hard to get. “Suis-moi je te fuis, fuis-moi je te suis” means, more or less, “chase me and I’ll run, but if you run from me I’ll follow you”. We all know the concept, but is that really what we want? There are books which tell you how to attract anybody effortlessly. I remember one book that claimed to have the key….